Just Do Something

Do you ever feel like you just need a good slap in the face?

Cause this girl got hers about a week ago…and it’s never felt so good.

I think we all know that magic happens in coffee shops. Am I right, or am I right? There’s nothing like drinking coffee that taste like dessert while talkin’ the ins-and-outs of life with Kings of Leon quietly jamming out in the background… {Did that not just sound so perfect? Because it is. Welcome to my life people. Coffee shops are my jam.}

Ok, getting off my soapbox about coffee shops. *sigh*

See, for the past year I’ve been meeting with the sweetest-most-amazing friend-mentor, {we’ll call her “M”}, at a coffee shop downtown to discuss life, God, work & just about everything else this mess of life throws our way. A lot has been discussed over our green teas & Onyx delights…. Worry for loved ones, fears & doubts about work and our purpose, celebrations for answered prayers, anger over heartbreak, excitement over what God’s doing in our lives right now, and a never-ending list of prayer requests–because heaven knows we need as much help as we can get navigating our crazy lives.

There’s a lot you can learn when you lean into someone. I’m by default a very prideful person–I hate telling people what I struggle with, or how I’m feeling. {I know, I know…you assumed I was perfect right? Don’t worry, you’re not the first. *fist bump*.} But, there’s something about letting someone else walk along side you that just opens up the floodgates & there’s nothing you can do but let it all poor out.

Having that person…it’s good for the soul. You need it. You need someone who really knows you, who can be honest with you–who can see the threads of your own life & help you make sense of them.

That’s what happened a week ago over coffee. “M” looked at me and said three simple words that was MY slap in the face…

“Just Do Something.”

To back up a couple of steps, we’d spent the past couple of months pouring over “Restless” by Jennie Allen. Jennie says, “We are called to dream but we’re afraid to. But because we are called, when we don’t act on it we become restless—restless to find purpose, to make a difference in the world, to matter.” “Restless” was all about identifying how our passions, struggles, gifts, the people in our lives, and the places God has placed us weave together to become threads of your life that align for a greater purpose… A purpose that God has uniquely given each individual that would enable us to love on others and show them God.

We all have passions & we all have purposes, but sometimes it’s hard to figure out how one flows into the other.

One thing is for sure though, we all dream of grand purposes for our lives.

I use to believe that my calling in life was to be a WNBA player until I realized that

1) I was white


2) I had zero vertical jump.

Shocking, I know. {Dream big right? *sob*}

When my WNBA dreams fell apart in grade school, I moved on to stealing others’ dreams. My best friend wanted to be a teacher, so yea, I wanted to be a teacher. My other friend wanted to be a lawyer, and well I’m great at arguing, so yea I’ll be a lawyer… It was easy to attach myself to other’s passions and feel like I was headed in the right direction.

Not until I got out of college did I realize just how lost I really was.

I had all of these experiences in life and lessons that I had learned and I wasn’t 100% sure what I was suppose to do with them. {…Ok I’ll admit… I’m still not sure sometimes…} I know it’s hard to believe since I’m oh so well put together & my life is auh-mazing, but let’s be honest here, I was a mess. {…and still am, don’t worry. Once a hott mess, always a hott mess yo.}

I got stuck on the whats, the whens, and the hows. 

What am I passionate about…

When will I be in my “dream job” doing things I love and enjoy…

How am I going to get from point A to point B…

I was restless.

Noticed I said “got stuck”. I was so caught up in trying to tie all of my threads up into one pretty bow, that for a long time I missed the bigger picture: God gave us a sense of wonder,  he gave us passions, and he gave us handfuls of threads in our lives that weave a beautiful story for each individual.  BUT, my desire to love on others, to build community, to tell stories, to make people laugh, and to show people worth are NOT grounded in ONE defining dream for my life.

Although God might give us different passions, dreams and pathways in the future, there is still so much to do RIGHT NOW.

I don’t have to move to Africa to feel purpose, I don’t need to have a platform to be heard, and I don’t need to move to a different city to build community. Because frankly, who knows WHEN or IF that will ever happen in my story.

We’ve got to stop overanalyzing our dreams so much, and JUST DO SOMETHING… NOW!

God gave us dreams… but he also gave us thousands of small moments in our every day to LIVE out our purpose.

We get so caught up in the questions about life, that we miss the opportunities God places right in front of us. There are opportunities right in front of us today where we can glorify God… love others… make an impact in someone else’s life… and feel the sense of purpose we are so restless for. Why else would God have placed us right where we are in life, right now?

Have faith in that. You’re not as lost as you think you are.

We hold things. We don’t think much about it, but there are hungry people all around us, and God is looking to take the seemingly insignificant little pieces tucked away in our lives to multiply them and feed his people.” – Jennie Allen, “Restless”

Those seemingly insignificant little pieces build to make a bigger picture. Your threads in life will change throughout the years to come, but at any given moment, there IS a beautiful story right in front of you. Don’t ignore it, and don’t miss out on your story–because hell, it’s a good one! Believe in that!

So, what’s next?

Feel drawn to community? Start a dinner club.

Enjoy telling a story? Hello blog!

Athletic? Coach a team and be a mentor/role model to your players.

Born to be a leader? Start a bible study at work.

Passionate about social justice issues around the world today? Get involved with a nonprofit.

Love fashion? Take pity on me and come dress me PLEASE.

See, there really is something we can all do right here, right now. If you’re as restless as I have been for the last couple of months, stop wondering WHEN God will use you in the future, and start focusing on HOW God can use you now.

My threads? Yea I’m loving my threads. When “M” gave me my slap in the face, it was was my big wake up call. I’m not as restless anymore because I know that I’m taking those passions, gifts, and desires I’ve struggled with for so long, and I’m making them count now. There might be a grander dream for me somewhere down the road, but I can’t help but wonder if I’m living the dream right now…

So, like “M” told me,


Consider that your slap in the face.  

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.” -1 Corinthians 13:1-3